Pub Date: June 2015

Author: Kate Walter

looking for a kiss

How long does it take to get over heartache? Journalist and teacher Kate Walter wondered if she’d ever feel whole again after her long-term lesbian partnership ended. A resident of Greenwich Village who spent years recording neighborhood life, Walter explores her recovery from despair in her debut memoir Looking for a Kiss: A Chronicle of Downtown Heartbreak and Healing. Dedicated to “women who have been dumped after 25 years,” the memoir shares her broke, brokenhearted state of being left by a partner of two decades. While many older women—gay and straight—experience divorce, Walter’s break up was more stressful since she was not legally married. But rather than dwelling in regret, Looking for Kiss carries a hopeful message: you can heal your life and land up in a better place. Readers are invited to share her journey to a more conscious life—or at least a hot kiss.

With brave and revealing details, Walter confesses her grief and rage and questions her past choices. Seeking answers and spiritual solace, she joins a gay-positive church, visits psychics, throws herself into yoga and chanting, and starts dating again at 60. Like the urban landscape that serves as her backdrop, Walter’s fast-paced dialogue has a raspy realness and soulful edge. She describes loneliness and longing with humorous and poetic prose. Anyone seeking hope will cheer this funny, gutsy narrator who loses love but finds herself.


“Searching for love and spiritual healing, Kate Walter’s journey from cynical city denizen to hopeful romantic will inspire anyone who has felt left adrift…”

—Jerry Portwood, executive editor of Out Magazine


“A hip hilarious and heartbreaking story of romance gone wrong. It’s the story of a brave gay woman who lost love but found herself…”

—Susan Shapiro, author of Five Men Who Broke My Heart
, Lighting Up, and What’s Never Said


“For years, Kate Walter has been downtown Manhattan’s Samuel Pepys, recording her life there in brave and revealing detail…”

—John Strausbaugh, author of The Village: 400 Years of Beats and Bohemians, Radicals and Rogues


“Walter has written a gift; this fast-paced, funny, touching memoir of triumph over love lost…”

—Alice Feiring, author of The Battle for Wine 
and Love and Naked Wine


“A savvy and funny spiritual journey… Anyone seeking hope can relate to her tale of breakup and renewal…”

—Royal Young, author of Fame Shark


“Kate Walter has written the queer low budget Eat Pray Love. Raw and intimate, she takes you along on her journey to enlightenment…”

—Susan Lander, Esq., author of Conversations with History